FRIENDS MAKES MISTAKES...

Your friends are only human, they will disappoint you. It is up to you what happens next.
Yes, friends make mistakes. They let you down and do things that make you question why you were ever friends in the first place.

No one said it was going to be easy but what worth having ever is? Granted, friendships are tough at the best of times but it is during these difficult patches that we find what it is that we stand for, what we are willing to overlook and to what extent.

Okay, your friend was a jerk. Maybe, even a really big jerk. When is this person going to get a clue and get it together? When are they going to become less self absorbed and stop living for the drama? You are thinking, never.

If you’ve known this friend for a long time, you are probably right. They aren’t going to change. What you have to do is take an honest look at this friendship. Think about what drew the two of you together in the first place. What interests do you have in common and have those interests changed? Do you and your friend want the same things out of life? Have you grown and matured over time, but your friend is still behaving like they did in elementary or high school?

One thing I have noticed is, over time, like everything else, friendships change or they die out. Those friendships that stand the test of time are those that are constantly growing and changing. Both sides of the friendship have to be equally invested and able to bring something new and interesting of themselves to the table. This is true for them where their friendship is concerned but also in their personal lives, as well. After all, when you get in a rut and don’t branch out and try something new or take a risk every once in a while, part of you shrivels up. You have nothing new to offer.

If the friendship is worth saving, find a way to work through your anger at your friend for their childish behavior and accept them for who they are, faults and all. Find ways to reconnect and have fun together while constantly challenging your friend to try new ways of doing things. Who knows, maybe with a little encouragement, your friend will begin to change.

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